I know how hard it was to ask you what your favorite kinks are. Because while you guys were writing your answers, I’ve been writing mine. Even as I write this, I’m also thinking of other things that I like. But in general, if titles have these kinks, I’d most likely love these titles.
So without further ado, my top kinks.
I would like to come forward and tell the world that oyajis are awesome. Nothing could be sexier than a healthy old man who’s got the world over his shoulders and still keeps his lover satisfied, right? Besides, oyaji is relative! Anyone older than you could be an oyaji. To a 16 yr. old boy, an oyaji could be a 30 yr. old man. Of course some would be a little older but in the land of BL, I’d like to think that the max for oyaji is 50. If we think about office romances, your section chief might be in his 30s, the deparmental head in his 40s, and the president in his 50s.
EW. 50s!? Khursten, that’s like your grandpa’s war buddy.
Well, if your grandpa looks like Anthony Bourdain, I don’t see what’s wrong with it. Daniel Craig is 45 and no one’s complaining that he makes an old Bond. Colin Firth is 52. Hiroshi Abe is 49. Some men can age well and I’d like to think that should the land of BL give me a company president as a protagonist, then I can well damn imagine that he’s dressed to kill.
And did I tell you that they could possibly be wearing suits? Yes. They could.
There are of course some little things with the oyaji that I also love. I love them uke or reversed. I love them cold and collected. I also love them a little sarcastic about the world and skeptical about their young lover only to be dominated and seduced by the power of youth! I also love it when they spoil their lovers, letting them have their way. At times, the discipline also comes in handy.
I love them fretting though. It’s just so adorable when old men panic when their partners get aggressive.
And how can I forget about the suits? Oyajis are awesome with their suits.
Favorite titles with these oyaji feels: Ichigenme…. First Class is Civil Law vol. 2, Sora to Hara, All the Basso, All the Est Em, Love Mode, Oyajina, and many others… I’m forgetful okay!
There’s something sexy and quite affectionate about reverses. Ash and Jocelyne were keen on the power play involved with reverses which makes it really sexy knowing the characters have the power to control and please their lovers in any way that they can.
But I also love the emotive aspect of it, especially when a partner decides that he’ll be bottom for this round. It involves a lot of trust to give up your backside if you’ve been top for a while.
That said, I also like the idea of reserving just because that’s how he damn enjoys it. He can top or bottom. It doesn’t matter as long as he’s having fun.
Did I ever tell you how oyajis are almost always involved in this task? Isn’t that amazing? :3
Favorite titles with reverse feels: Love Mode, Sojou no Koi wa Nido Haneru, Gad Sfortunato, I think? … and others I forget.
Now, don’t start thinking that I love them food kinks with chocolate and whip cream smothered over another lover. Oh god, no. I’ve been traumatized by one of those older Beboy gold titles where kewpie served as a lube. NO. THIS IS NOT THE KINK I AM TALKING ABOUT.
What I’m referring to are the stories that involve the lover preparing food for his partner or those actively sharing a meal together. Whether he was a chef or just some guy who likes cooking. I get all the happy feels when they start eating regardless if the food is bad or not. Plus points if the food is actually good.
I love how their expression changes when they eat a meal. Also, I love it when the tension is high while they eat. “Why the crap are we eating when it’s obvious we want to get laid instead.” Boys, you’ll be grateful that you ate since I’m quite sure you’ll be drained as hell when you get at it.
Favorite titles with foodie feels: Ichigenme… First Class is Civil Law, Sekaiichi Hatsukoi, Itoshi no Nekkoke, Dining Bar Akira, and others… ugh I need some kind of memory thingie
… are tsundebest. I love them. I just looooove how they deny all these feelings only for their emotions to burst out in more ways than one.
I love to see them getting teased. I love to see them squirm. I love them go “It’s not like I love you, baka!”
Yes. We can see you don’t love him. We’re totally convinced.
Favorite titles with tsundebests: Ichigenme… First Class is Civil Law, Sekaiichi Hatsukoi, Love Mode, some Natsume Isaku titles, and many others…
This isn’t so much about BDSM or anything. But this is mostly the powerplay involved with people who have a power over another person. Rarely do authors get this right and more often than not, they just go straight towards the beating. But there’s no beauty in that.
I mean yes, technically, it’s amazing when you read equals in BL. But in master/servant relationships (butlers, bodyguards, etc.), I am amused when a well established man falls into pieces just because of one unfortunate fate that led him to be under the hands of another man.
Now he can be fortunate and this guy could be nice and amazing. And we can have nice and fluffy feels and be all right. But he can also be very unfortunate and meet the “wrong” guy only to discover that man carries a difficult burden and he feels that his obedience might just save him. Might. I don’t know. This rarely is a happy story but I love it, nonetheless. The feels are just… GAH.
Favorite titles: Love Mode, Blue Morning, Saezuru tori wa habatakanai, etc.
GOD THIS IS THE MOST DIFFICULT LIST EVER. I wanted to write childhood friends, crack, cutie pies, wankos, sex gods, AV idols, and actual kinks like stubbles, frotting, and rimming but in general, these are five things that will keep me reading a particular title and feel completely satisfied when it’s all over.
I also realize that I do have a bad memory. *sighs*
Anyway, here’s my list. What do you think of them? Have you guys given me answers to your kinks? :3